Just A Thought: Disconnected

Disconnected

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How many times have you talked with someone suddenly stopping in the middle making that person repeat what he/she has just said? How many times have you heard that story but never really remembering you've heard it? How many times did you find yourself hearing the words but not really listening to them? How many times have you felt guilty for pretending to hear but just staring into space? Or How often do you even pretend that you just disappeared from the face of the earth so that no one could ever get to you?

In the hype of social media and technology it's almost as if face-to-face communication is no longer possible; that it's easier to plan a reunion online than to meet somewhere and have a nice chat with your friends about anything you could possibly think of. Yes, I feel guilty about missing out on every chance of reconnecting again to people in my life but I feel that it is not necessary at the moment. I sound harsh but here are my thoughts about it...

I have always had this phrase in my head every time I tinker with the bad internet connection: Disconnect to connect. The simple little box gave me an idea that yeah why not do it, why not try to just be on your own for sometime? Why not try to not beg for attention from your friends that you need to talk and see them because you have something urgent to say? Why not just eat, enjoy coffee, or enjoy a movie without their company? Not that you don't want those people to be hanging around but for you to have a sense of detachment.

I have always dreamed of having total detachment from certain relationships that give me so much views, opinions, and stories that I can no longer identify which ones are really mine. Have you had that? Where everything you just want to happen is somewhat dependent on what others think or say? That that certain dress does not look good on you because he/she said it, that your hair is not properly styled cause he/she thinks it's too short or too long, or that she said that this guy/girl told you you were fat? and nah nah nah the list goes on and on.

It's hard to hear yourself when you get bombarded with so many ideas. I hope you're agreeing with me on this.You either let the stampede drown you or you just decide to follow where it will take you.

I believe that detachments are good and not all bad. Why do we choose to detach even? Maybe because we no longer need this person, these people, these clothes, these shoes, or even this job in our life, maybe because this does not make us happy anymore, or maybe it doesn't serve us well as a sane human being.

At the moment we are deciding to do it, it makes us feel sad and sometimes angry. We grieve or sometimes we throw tantrums for losing these things or these people in our lives that we've once held truly important, truly loved, and truly appreciated. We get mad at ourselves for sometime or even a long time just for making those decisions.

I strongly believe that all disconnections have positive outcomes. It's like perfect blessings in disguise and time will be the only one to tell what the real purpose of those disconnections we did for ourselves.

Detaching is good because it gives us a leeway for a smooth transition period. For me it somewhat keeps our feet on the ground and our sanity intact because the time to finally hear ourselves is already presenting itself.

It's a transition period that can go as smoothly as a baby's foot or as rough as the edges of a cookie. It can go for days, months, or even years until we finally decide to let it all go---let all the junk go.

What I think is that we took the time to disconnect because at the back of our minds we know that we deserve something better and we know that the chance of finding better luck is truly possible. We chose to disconnect because we know that this is an avenue for us to have better connections with people or things in the long run. It's a process we have to go through to truly understand the importance of people or things in our lives, what role they play and how they can serve to better us as individuals.

Disconnections or detachments are always hard to do but through these we learn how to be patient with ourselves and we'd always end up giving ourselves a pat on the back for being courageous in doing these decisions.

In this new age sometimes we need to disconnect to people or things in our lives to feel reconnected to ourselves all over again.

By the time we can hear ourselves, that's the only time we can truly listen and by the time we learn how to listen that's the time we will truly feel connected to anything and everything around us.

Today, what did you choose to let go?

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